First Comes Love, Then Comes Marriage
First comes love, then comes marriage, then comes baby in the baby carriage. (Or any order or combination thereof…) So, I’m all up in my Mommy feelings today. Lately, we have had the opportunity to do quite a few maternity, and newborn sessions, and even our first birth! It is an honor when our clients trust us to capture their weddings, but an even greater honor when they ask us to capture the beginnings of their family. And, I can’t help but look in awe and wonder at these innocent beginnings and all the possibilities ahead.
So, what’s that got to do with us? Why are we here? I thought this place was all about weddings…We don’t just do weddings here. We do life. And everything that goes along with it. It can be so messy and so beautiful all at the same time. I’m here to tell you to take the picture. Don’t always be the one behind the camera, be in front of it too. Allow yourself to be photographed in all stages of this wonderful experience of Mommy-hood, even if you feel like all kinds of wrong with your unstyled hair and puffy cheeks (and even if you haven’t showered in three days). Keep it real. Not every photo has to look airbrushed. Take that selfie. I have first hand experience in the matter of not taking the picture and I still carry the regret of not following my own advice.
Do You Really Need Maternity Photos?
Maybe you’re the person that wants to wait until half way through your pregnancy before you make the grand announcement. You’ve hidden your bump under baggy t-shirts and tossed your cookies in the privacy of your own home. Hey, that’s cool and completely your choice, well done! Maybe you don’t feel glowy…or maybe you feel a little large and not so in charge. It always makes my heart drop a little to hear that you don’t feel pretty enough or you feel fat because you are no longer a size 2. Let me tell you Mama, there is no-one more stunning than you. You may not feel glowy, but when we see you, you sparkle. Take the picture, Mommy.
I didn’t have the luxury of waiting to tell everyone that I was expecting. I was very sick and so high risk that everyone that knew me could tell that something was going on with me very early on. Being on bed rest multiple times during my pregnancy, I couldn’t hide what I was going through. Since I was so high risk, I lived in constant fear that something was going to happen to my baby. I went through a roller coaster of emotions almost daily. I didn’t want any photos of my semi-adorable pregnant belly because I somehow convinced myself that if something bad did happen -and I didn’t have any photos- that I would be safe from any hurtful reminders. Thankfully, we were blessed with an amazing happy and healthy baby and he’s pretty much the cutest person to ever walk this planet if I do say so myself.
But here’s the thing…since I never wanted photos of myself, I only have two snapshots of my baby belly out of my entire pregnancy. I have more ultrasound prints than photos, I have enough ultrasounds to fill an entire album! Sure, I cherish the two pictures that I do have, but man do I wish I would’ve taken more. That was nine years ago and I still regret not taking more photos during my pregnancy. Take the picture, Mommy.
What Do You Mean, Birth Pictures?
Recently, Richard was asked to capture a birth. Always up for a challenge, he gladly accepted. Let me tell you something, the morning he got the text that the Mommy-To-Be was in labor, he bolted down our hallway like we were having a new baby of our own! I got text updates almost hourly because he was so excited. How is it that this man is so excited over a baby that isn’t ours? Because seeing a precious life begin is always an exciting thing.
We get that some people don’t want to have photos of themselves in labor…but is it really about whether you have make-up on or not? Or is it about the fact that you just brought a new life into this world? Birth photos can be so powerful! Even if you don’t want the focus to be on you, it’s about documenting the beginning of everything for this new little human. Take the picture, Mommy.
Do You Really Need To Do A Newborn Session?
I think people often have varying ideas when it comes to Newborn sessions. Some people like the super posed baby in a terra cotta pot and a giant flower adorning their tiny tiny head. Some people like Lifestyle sessions (my personal favorite) where you are just in your natural element and a photographer captures those candid moments. Those sweet unposed kisses and cheek snuggles are the BEST!
Almost everyone wants a newborn session. You want to shout it from the mountain tops for the whole world to hear. “HEY, YOU!! LOOK!! I JUST MADE THIS TINY HUMAN!!” But there are people that just aren’t into it. I know you just made this tiny human and it forced it’s way out of your body, and you are so very tired…maybe you don’t want anyone to touch your baby because of germs or you don’t want/can’t spend the extra money. That’s OK!
Even if you don’t get professional photos done…take pictures with your baby (not just of your baby), even when you are wearing mix-matched clothes and have five day old Cheerios stuck in your hair. Take the picture even when you don’t feel put together. Take the picture, Mommy.
Most of us are familiar with this quote:
“IN THE END…We only regret the chances we didn’t take, the relationships we were afraid to have, and the decisions we waited too long to make.” ~ Lewis Carroll
Something I have found to be true in my life, I think is also true for others if they just think about it for a minute or two. I also believe “You will only regret the photos that you didn’t take.”
The beauty of this digital age is, if you absolutely hate a photo, there’s always the DELETE button. Have at it! But nine times out of ten, you will cherish them.
Not all photos are meant for everyone to see. I can’t imagine doing birth photos and then sharing them at Church for everyone to see…but I’m positive that those photos would be one of my most prized possessions.
Remember, just because you don’t feel pretty doesn’t mean that you aren’t. A photographer can help you with that. They are trained to get just the right angles in just the right lighting to make it look like you are glowing brighter than the starriest night. If I can leave you with one piece of advice, it would be that whatever you do in your wonderful beautiful messy life Mommy, take the picture.
We hope that no matter where life takes you, you will take the picture.
Always, always take the picture.
Richard & Myra ~but mostly Myra on this post 😉