Let’s Talk About Stress, Baby
Wedding planning got you like, whoa?! Let’s talk about stress, baby…let’s talk about all the good things and the bad things that may be…did you just sing that in your head like I did? I know you did (but maybe with a few word changes).
Guess what! Wedding planning is hard work!! That’s why we have wedding professionals. Wedding Pros are the heroes that are willing to shoulder the bulk of your stress so that you don’t have to worry about the cake topper toppling over or the flower arrangements being just a smidge too tall.
Ways You Can Avoid Wedding Stress
Hire a professional wedding planner or coordinator.
This fabulous life-saving person will make arrangements with your venue and vendors. And straight up do what they need to do to make your day spectacular. You can hire someone to plan your entire wedding or you can hire someone to take charge on the big day. Some venues have a coordinator in house that is assigned to your event. Ask them about it or if they have a favorite they can recommend.
If you choose to plan for yourself, diligently stick to a planning timeline.
Don’t be a procrastinator. Don’t do like I did and wait until 11:00 the night before the wedding to remember that you forgot to order wedding programs and flowers!! Plan ahead. Trust me, you will be glad that you did.
Hire vendors that you can trust.
Hire vendors that you know will make your day spectacular. Entrust your reception to a fun DJ that you know will show up on time and make your reception a blast. Get an officiant that has done more than two weddings and knows to tell your guests “You May Be Seated” during the ceremony.
Delegate tasks to the Bridal Party or family members.
There is no shame in asking for help! Ask your Bridal Party or family members to help in areas that you just can’t do yourself. We had to rely on family members to set up for our reception because we were busy getting ready and weren’t allowed to do it the night before due to booking. This kind of made our OCD hearts skip a little beat. Make sure they know what to do and how to do it. Our chocolate fountain didn’t quite “flow” it was more like a “glop-glop” fountain. Did it really matter? It would’ve been nice to have it work properly. But you could still use it, those apple slices were still dipable. And at the end of the day, if that was the only thing that went wrong we were doing just fine.
Take time for yourself to relax.
Whether it be a pedicure, a drinky drink, or reading a book on the beach, take time for yourself. Diffuse some relaxing essential oils, like lavender. Sip a cup of hot tea. Yes, wedding planning is a lot of work. But it doesn’t need to consume you.
Give your phone to someone else.
On your wedding day, give your phone to someone else. The tie most guests will have in common is YOU. They will call on you for directions or questions about where to eat lunch. Let someone else take over. These phone calls (no matter how innocent) will get stressful or at least annoying if your phone is constantly going off.
Limit access to yourself on your wedding day.
Wait, what?! Everyone is so excited for you!! They want to see you and give you their love before the wedding. This can create total chaos not to mention smear your freshly powdered face. Try to only have your Bridal Party and a few select family members with you. Be nice, but leave twice removed cousin Barb out of the room. She can hug you after the ceremony.
Surround yourself with calm people.
When choosing who you want to help, you often select the people that you have known your whole life. If Aunt Trish has a way of always making everything about her or stirring up drama, maybe she shouldn’t be invited into the Bridal Suite. Try to surround yourself with people that genuinely have your best interest at heart and that will help you stay calm. This is, after all, one of the most exciting days of your life!!
Don’t compare yourself to Pinterest.
Pinterest is an AMAZING resource for giving you ideas or walking you through wedding planning. But don’t compare your wedding to theirs. You are not them and that wedding is not yours. Unless you have the same exact everything, it won’t turn out identical to that little framed photo that you pinned on your Wedding board. (Did you know, a lot of those photos are from styled shoots? They are mock-weddings. They aren’t even really real.) Let your vendors make your day unique to you. We are sure you will be thrilled with the results because it will reflect your personality!
Enjoy This Time
It makes us a little sad when we hear people say, “I just can’t wait to get this day over with.” Your wedding day should be a day that you will cherish for the rest of your life. Savor every moment. Even the bad ones, because one day you will look back and laugh. (Like that one time when that random song was played after our unity candle was lit and we didn’t know what to do so we just stood there for five minutes looking at each other with endearing smiles because well, what else were we supposed to do?!) Take time to relax before, during, and after your big day. The ultimate goal is not to have a seamless event, the ultimate goal is to marry your lobster. And well, the honeymoon is just an added bonus 😉
We would love to hear some of your favorite ways to avoid wedding stress and de-stress tips. Add them by commenting below!